BUT, when we look at people through the eyes of God we can see a the true person as they are seen by God…. this is hard to do some times…. but with practice it gets easier.

I recently went through a situation where this was played out…. and people were amazed at the resulting peace that transpired…. it does work.

PLUS, one of the things my mother tried to teach me (that I think all parents should teach their children) is the Golden Rule.

Do to others what you would have them do to you…. when you treat people with disrespect and contempt you are essentially telling those people that is how you want them to treat you…. when you see someone through the eyes of God you naturally show reverence and respect to them, and in return you receive the same.

Put out what you want to receive is the Buddhist philosophy…. if you put out negative you will receive negative, if you put out positive you will receive positive…. if you put out nothing you will get nothing in return.

In Qi Gong you are taught that the energy force within yourself is vital and can direct the energies outside of yourself to effect change…. if you wish to effect good change balance the yin with the yang…. neglect one and the other will suffer in turn.

Most recently I had a dream in which I was throwing out this HUGE boomerang…. and wondered what it was trying to tell me…. and that was the crux of that dream…. things will always come back to you.

Blessings: From Publishers Weekly:

Frustrated with a therapeutic practice that “shifted too frequently to be an anchor” for parents struggling with issues like overindulgence and overscheduling, clinical psychologist Mogel turned to her religious heritage for ways to help her clients and her own family “find grace and security” in an increasingly complex world. “In the time-tested lessons of Judaism, I discovered insights and practical tools that spoke directly to these issues,” writes Mogel, who left her psychology practice in order “to help parents look at their children’s anxieties and desires using a different lens.” Digging into the rich traditions of the Torah, the Talmud and other Jewish teachings, Mogel builds a parenting blueprint that draws on core spiritual values relevant to families of all faiths. With warmth and humor, she offers strategies for encouraging respect and gratitude in children, and cautions against overprotection (“we treat our children’s lives like we’re cruise ship directors who must get them to their destination adulthood smoothly, without their feeling even the slightest bump or wave”) and the pressure of “Lake Wobegon parenting” (a reference to Garrison Keillor’s fictional town where “all the children are above average”). Her thoughtful observations consistently illuminate and reassure. Impassioned, lyrical and eminently practical, this inspiring volume is a real treasure.

As I have grown older I’ve found it useful to have goals and expectations both for myself and sometimes others. But these ideas are just ways we have of tricking ourselves and sometimes others into taking those first few tiny steps beyond the shrouds of the limits of current circumstances. Not achieving a goal or expectation simply means it is time to refocus and try again, not to dwell and despair.

And while worrying is most definitely a waste of energy, I have no clue how to prevent or moderate it in a loved one.

Speaking as I am as a life-long under achiever.
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