One of the most damaging aspects of being diet-obsessed is the mental preoccupation. There are many smart people out there (including most women) who waste a great deal of time & precious mental energy thinking about what they're eating or not eating, fantasizing about dessert, and hurting themselves by not fully loving their bodies AS IS. Beauty comes in a wide variety of flavors and everyone is turned on by different things!
Letting go of this mental obsession creates space for Newness in life. What we think about matters. Attention = energy.
Of course, telling yourself not to think something doesn't really work either... it really is key to find out (& be honest with ourselves about) why we're overeating!
Try not to think of a white bear...
Suppression may seem effective at first. A diet strategy of trying not to think about food may even get some people thin enough that they allow themselves to think about food. Then they start to regain the lost weight and hurriedly start suppressing food thoughts again. A series of these thought indulgence cycles can leave the dieter totally obsessed and fat once more.
By suppressing a thought, we never get used to it. Instead, we make ourselves more sensitive to its next occurrence. The thought we most want to avoid soon becomes our greatest fear.
Once you understand this, the solution seems clear. To end obsessive thoughts, stop stopping them. Think the unthinkable. Consciously relaxing mental control is the only way eventually to regain it.
What would society be like if all humans were psychic?
We'd finally be forced to be honest with one another, and would realize how much we have in common with even the most outwardly different people. Imagine that!
According to this article, money CAN buy happiness, but only if it's used to re-configure one's life. Simply collecting bigger and fancier stuff won't do it.
Though "retail therapy" can help some people feel good for a short time, it's ultimately unsatisfying and there's always a desire for more. For some, shopping even becomes an addiction!
How not to buy happiness
In effect, I wish to propose two different answers to the question “Does money buy happiness?” Considerable evidence suggests that if we use an increase in our incomes, as many of us do, simply to buy bigger houses and more expensive cars, then we do not end up any happier than before. But if we use an increase in our incomes to buy more of certain inconspicuous goods–such as freedom from a long commute or a stressful job–then the evidence paints a very different picture. The less we spend on conspicuous consumption goods, the better we can afford to alleviate congestion; and the more time we can devote to family and friends, to exercise, sleep, travel, and other restorative activities. On the best available evidence, reallocating our time and money in these and similar ways would result in healthier, longer– and happier–lives.
In these troubled times, it can cause a lot of stress and difficulty to be struggling against what's going on out there in actual reality. We all deny the root causes of why things are the way they are in our lives to some degree, but an honest re-assessment of our real situation can often help lead us in the right direction.
While it's often painful to more fully open our eyes and let go of ideas we're really attached to, giving up what we know is often just the medicine we need. This can include our homes, our jobs, our culture, our inherited "family values" and even our core identities! Nothing is "stable" in nature.
The real art is learning how to truly relax with the knowledge that everything is temporary and fluid. In this relaxed state, we become more in touch with our intuitive guidance. The more we learn to hear & trust our intuition, the more we experience the magical effects of real, visceral Faith (no religious affiliation required!)
For some reason, drugs like booze and Prozac which are legal dull the senses and drugs that make the senses more intense are generally illegal, even when they are plants. Could "the man" be trying to hold back consciousness development?
DMT is the psychoactive chemical that causes its users to enter a strange "environment" that some have likened to an alien or parallel universe. Many people report seeing intricate palaces and temples, golden objects, transparent beings, angelic beings, and beings sometimes known as machine elves. These beings and places seem utterly real. Why do people from different cultures and areas of the world see common themes while under the influence of DMT? Why do people often see intelligent beings that are reptillian or robotic -- beings that tend huge machines in vast illuminated complexes?
While our first inclination is to dismiss these machine elves as insane hallucinations, I would like scientists to investigate them further. At worst, we will learn more about the human brain and archetype-like themes buried in our unconscious. At best, we may discover something about the very structure of reality, space, and time. Because we encounter reality through the filter of the mind, the more we learn about the mind, the more we learn about the fabric of reality.
Tomorrow is Earthdance, which is a series of parties all over the world that happen at the same time with the intention of promoting global unity and peace. I believe this is a powerful thing, but even if you're skeptical about that it's quite a lot of fun.
I'll be at the one in Vancouver, but check out their website for the location nearest you!
Earthdance, the Global Dance Festival for Peace has grown to become the world's largest simultaneous music and dance event. Founded in 1997, with 22 cities and 18 countries participating, Earthdance has grown to over 150 cities in 50 countries participating in 2004, with locations ranging from the club-lands of New York to the rainforests of Brazil. Every year, in alignment with the International Day of Peace, over 200,000 people unite in dance with hundreds of thousands more joining online in support of global peace and humanitarian aims.
I've often wondered why moths are so attracted to lights & flame, so I looked it up! There doesn't seem to be one definitive answer, but this one seems compelling.
Why are moths attracted to light?
Some types of moths are known to migrate, and it's possible that the night sky gives them navigational clues. A moth's up-down orientation might depend in part on the brightness of the sky relative to the ground. Some lepidopterists (moth and butterfly scientists) suggest that moths use the moon as a primary reference point and have the ability to calibrate their flight paths as the Earth's rotation causes the moon to move across the sky. (There is even evidence to support the theory that migrating moths have an internal geomagnetic compass system to guide them in the right direction.) So a moth's attraction to an artificial light or to a fire could be related to orientation, and lead to disorientation -- the moth wasn't "expecting" to actually get to "the moon" (the light source) or to be able to fly above it, so confusion results.
I've heard many people complain that they meet far more people that seem attracted to them when they are "taken" (i.e. in an exclusive relationship) than when they are actively looking to meet someone. This is more than just Murphy's Law. This has to do with the fact that when we're feeling good about ourselves and not trying too hard, we're far more attractive to everyone than when we seem desperate.
Being ok with being "alone" and focus on self-refinement also seems to help...
Tonight I was down at the beach with a few friends looking at the stars when we noticed a bright red light in the sky. We discussed whether it was a fire on a distant mountain, an airplane, a lighthouse, or a radio tower. It then started moving sideways and into a zig zag pattern. The light changed from red to yellow to green as it crossed the night sky.
I saw a UFO! Maybe soon I'll meet some aliens...